Critical Opening. . .

There are many ways to deal with criticism.  However, today I would like to offer something different. Instead of seeing criticism as something to run away from, I offer this practice to use criticism as a way to open our heart to ourself and others. The practice today requires some courage and equanimity, and to be curious to investigate into how criticism affects our body and mind. How does it feel like to be unliked? To be criticized? To be blamed? To be wrong? To be imperfect? Allow any feelings, no matter how unpleasant, to be without resistance, aversion or distraction. Get to know it well. Be “okay” with it. Often we harden up to protect ourselves and ready ourselves in defense. This time, instead of hardening up, allow your heart to soften. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. You are not being attacked right now, so put down the armor, even just for a moment. Be in this open space with no words and no judgement, to just be here with yourself, for yourself. It may take some time to get used to this. That’s okay. Be patient and allow some time. f you like, you can also introduce compassion and loving-kindness into the practice. These may arise naturally or you can offer yourself love, kindness, compassion and forgiveness. You can say to yourself words such as, “I forgive myself. I accept myself. Here I offer love and kindness to myself.” As you strengthen this practice, next time you are met with criticism – either from others or yourself – you have a new way of relating to it. Your option is no longer limited to running away from it or fighting against it. You now have an additional choice: to be with it, holding it with humility, equanimity and compassion, wishing yourself and the other forgiveness and love. May you be able to face any criticism with a heart that is not hardened with hurt, but heartened by the steadiness of compassion and great love.