Step First. . .
So often, we say yes to things out of a sense of obligation or misguided morality.
Society and even some buddhists culture has fed us this idea that if we aren’t constantly putting our own needs aside to tend to the needs of others, we’re being selfish and un-whole. The Buddha set the perfect example in all things, including setting boundaries. He sought moments of solitude in nature. He took time for meditation and thought. He lovingly reminded people when their behavior was out of line. He rested, spent time with others and kept his path defined.
We are allowed to say no. Saying no is about giving an enthusiastic yes to what is most important to you. Saying no to certain requests, opportunities, and behaviors enables us to focus on our loved ones, our goals, our physical and mental health, and our own spiritual progress. But the key here is balance. President Thomas S. Monson wrote, “To find real happiness, we must seek for it in a focus outside ourselves.While taking care of ourselves is important, I sometimes worry that the “self-care” movement encourages a bit too much focus on ourselves. We’re so busy trying to make our own lives better that we overlook (or reject!) opportunities to improve the lives of those around us.
So take time to fill your bucket, but remember that the reason you need a full bucket is so you can give water to those who are thirsty. Making space for growth might look like making time for yourself, and then making time to serve.
Peace and Love, Jim
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